Taking the First Step

After our recent miscarriage, my husband and I had to make some decisions about our future.  We considered ourselves to have four choices:

1. Stop trying for the indefinite future.
2. Move forward with additional IUIs.
3. Pursue adoption.
4. Pursue IVF.

All these options presented different pros and cons, but it was clear to us which option to pursue - especially after speaking to Dr. B. 

Option 1 was out of the question.  Although it feels great to stop thinking about trying-to-conceive and think of nothing but work, family, friends and regular, every day life, it just doesn't feel right. We have to keep trying.

Option 2 is certainly something to consider, but after eight IUIs we felt it was time to move on.  IUIs give us a 25% chance of conception each cycle which is only a 5% better chance than a "normal" couple.  On the other hand, IVF offers a 75% chance of conception each cycle!  Incredible.  Needless to say, we're ready to move on from IUIs. 

Option 3 has been discussed multiple times in our house, but we're not there yet.  The process of conceiving is long, painful, expensive and not a guarantee.  Adoption is the same way.  The choice isn't easy, but you know what feels right.  We're not ready to pursue adoption - not yet.

Option 4 was ultimately the right decision for us. We've been considering this option for several years, but haven't been able to pursue it due to the prohibitive costs.  We're finally at a place where we can move forward with IVF.  It will be a scary, painful process, but I can't wait. 

Making this decision is the first time I've experienced hope in a long time. We cannot wait to move forward and experience this new journey.